At moments it's more than I can handle.
It sounds like it's considered normal behaviour for these ages
But I would really prefer that it wasn't the norm for our house.
Everything seems to become an argument.
Everything seems to become a melt down.
And yet, they really are good girls.
Everyone else tells me how good they are.
Just not so much at home... at least not for some really basic things.
We've introduced a Responsibility Chart.
It's not for chores, or behaviours.
It's just to outline what's expected of them.
There's no point in arguing about these responsibilities.
And while we're at it, no complaining or whining either.
I just don't want to hear it.
Things like brushing your teeth or your hair, or
having a shower are really non-negotiable.
Putting your dirty clothes in the laundry and setting the table.
Doing your homework and clearing the dinner dishes.
Are these really dramatic tantrum inducing obligations?
Unfortunately, they sometimes are in our house.
It's come to this;
If they don't want to do what's expected of them,
then I don't want to hear requests for anything.
Don't ask for toys, books, clothes or money.
Don't ask to go on playdates, to dances, or sleepovers.
These are privileges to be earned, not rights.
That's an argument I expected to have to use with
a 16 year old about getting their drivers licence!
What are we going to do when they're teenagers?!?!